When I went to my first group I was quiet and shy. We introduced our selves and together made ground rules for the group. The one that always stands out to me is CONFIDENTIALITY. This is important as some peers are frightened of disclosing any information with the group in fear of a backlash from whistle blowers.
Whilst attending peer support groups I have realised how important peer support it and how valuable it can be. Sharing with a group of people all struggling with mental illness takes away the feelings of loneliness inside your own head. Everyone is their because of a range of circumstances but all share a common struggle. I no longer feel alone and have just started to help people in the group that are newly diagnosed and at the start of their recovery. People are so pleased to hear that in the past I have managed to keep stability for almost 18 months before having a re lapse and becoming ill again. We share thoughts, feelings, events, traumas and most of all we share new positive coping mechanisms to help manage our own mental health in between flare ups. IT IS GOOD TO TALK. Ignore your self conscious and speak out in the groups as this may get you an answer that you never thought of.
Like every part of recovery peer support groups are physically and mentally draining as the work starts as soon as the door shuts, even when just having a chat with a peer. I make sure that I rest well afterwards as the night before therapy is usually unsettled. But that seems a small price to pay with all the support I have gained. I now look forward to offloading the previous weeks events and working through them as a group.
I know its frightening but if you only gain one more piece of information its all part of our low mood toolbox and can be used to move forward in recovery. To access psychotherapies to help your diagnosis on a more long term level you have to be able to handle the gruelling work it entails, so pushing yourself into peer support always goes in your favour to help create a better future for you, your carers, friends and family. PLEASE JUST ATTEND THE FIRST ONE- YOU NEVER KNOW :)